I took my girlfriend and friend out to dinner.

Friend says, “I love living with someone.”

Turning to my girlfriend, she asks, “how do you feel?”

My girlfriend looks at me and then replies, “it’s…fine.”

What do you feel is an appropriate response?

I sat down with her later and tried to talk about it, but she said she was joking. I just don’t get the joke.

    • sjh@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      1 year ago

      Thank you for the reply! Wouldn’t you want your partner to be enthused about living with you though?

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        I would, but barring any other info, I’d accept her statement that it was just an attempt at humor at face value Unless she seems different suddenly at home, or has an attitude or starts avoiding you or something.

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            You seem oddly fixated on this, I think you need to learn to let some things go, this doesn’t seem serious at all.

            If you ask this many questions to her face about a small line like that I would be concerned for her.

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              Ok, thank you for your help! I don’t want to make mountains out of molehills but I am pretty hurt. I’ll think hard on what you said.

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                If you’re genuinely hurt, tell that to her. I’m sure she didn’t intend to do so and will probably be more careful when speaking about you. With that said, you’re definitely overthinking this and should promise let it go after that.

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                If you’re hurt you should tell her. I think we’re all assuming you have the type of relationship where you could joke about this kind of thing. But if that’s not the case, or you’re not comfortable with it, I think you should tell her it bothered you.

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            Bro, if that’s the worst thing your spouse ever says to you, you’re a blessed man. Being able to get past things is a big part of any relationship. TBH, if you’re truly not able to let it go (again, barring any other information about how she treats you), you might need to consider whether marriage is for you. Living with a partner with that kind of commitment takes a lot of work and a lot of flexibility. You gotta roll with the punches sometimes.

            You seem genuine and sincere. I’m sorry that you’re hurting, and. I hope you feel better soon man. Best wishes, for real.

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            We make jokes all the time - “my marriage is a little sore today,” or suggesting the other get an apartment for their hobby materials.