Transcription: An image of a man slightly hunched over, with one hand pressed on his lower back. The text says “I’M HERE, I’M QUEER, AND MY JOINT PAIN IS MODERATE TO SEVERE”

  • MrMamiya@feddit.de
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    1 year ago

    Sorry your specific life situation wasn’t covered by my generalization.

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      1 year ago

      It’s not my specific life situation, but to make such a generalization isn’t helpful either. It’s dismissive and rude to people with disabilities and pain related conditions. It’s like telling a depressed person to just try being happy instead of sad. I’m not trying to be rude, I’m just saying that it’s a thing a lot of people with disabilities and pain based conditions hear and it only serves to rub salt in the wound of dealing with their issues and to please be mindful of that moving forward. (I’m sorry if I seemed hostile, that was not my intention. I was trying to inform.)

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        1 year ago

        Hey man, you’re taking me too seriously.

        I have diabetes. I have chronic pain. I have major depressive disorder. I have anxiety. I have had a collapsed lung. I have an inherited disease that ossifies ear bones and have two synthetic stapes. I was on Medicaid for 3 years.

        Don’t tell me about struggle. I’m sorry imaginary people are suffering from my lack of encyclopedic exceptions to my advice. I’m sure they’ll be okay.

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          1 year ago

          My apologies, I deal with chronic pain as well and disability as well. I guess my shitty interactions on reddit because of it has me assuming the absolute worst from people out the gate.

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            1 year ago

            Thanks man, I appreciate this a lot. I’m. Not trying to have an adversarial time here either. I know what you mean about the Reddit thing.

            I’m sorry you’ve had a hard time too. We’re gonna be okay though. I wish you the best in your fight.

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              1 year ago

              You too, I appreciate it.

              Also, this is the third time this month I’ve had this kind of interaction on Lemmy where a misunderstanding has been resolved amicably without conflict instead it turning into a bigger argument and never once did I have such an interaction on Reddit. I hope that this chill nature sticks around here.

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      1 year ago

      You made a sweeping generalization with no information. That would be fine if you weren’t now being snarky about it.

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        1 year ago

        You wanna talk about it?

        Edit: the people that like me, do so despite my flaws. I like to make light of stuff, kind of like this meme I replied to on a meme sub. Did I get a little salty, sure. If I wanted a high bar for posting I would go to a science or history sub, or a sub about back pain. This is not that.

        I’ve got a pretty good background of suffering, I’m sorry for whatever you’re going through that made you upset by my simple advice. If you need someone to talk to, I’m flaky but will respond.