The comments are full of people saying transphobic shit and op doubling down on his “making your trans partner feel dysphoric is fine” shit. He’ll that pic was a re-upload from one of the mods here. What the fuck!!! This is fucking 196 why are we out here defending blatant transphobia? People are in there calling trans people karens with a persecution complex, there’s tons of defense of treating trans men like shit, “allies” telling trans people they’re overreacting, all kinds of inexcusable shit. If this is how lemmy 196 is gonna be I hope this place crashes and burns
Could you at least give some context?
The person in the screenshot was being asked if they’d date a trans man, they gave that response. Which is to say yes, but that they have a sexual preference for femininity which would make it difficult as most trans men are dysphoric about their feminity especially pre-op. He said it in not the best word choice but the sentiment is not transphobic. Big “he a little confused but he got the spirit” energy.
OP is going to tell you a bunch of other shit. Looks like the post might’ve been removed but what they’re saying was happening in those comments did not happen. They just seem to be a very, very angry person.
I don’t get it?
The OP was expressing how awkward sex would be with him being majorly attracted to boobs while the trans guy hates their boobs.
I don’t think he literally meant he’d SAY THAT, especially on purpose.
Mostly I think he was saying it wouldn’t be the best idea for him to date a trans man cuz he’s not into dudes. He was just trying to be funny and paint a picture of awkwardness to explain why.
That’s my reading of it, anyway.
If you think that’s transphobic I feel sorry for your heart rate, it must never have time to rest. That’s just somebody stating their sexual preference, albeit using insensitive wording. But sexual preferences against penis is not transphobic. It’s just that, sexual preference, which is valid.
People are in there calling trans people karens with a persecution complex,
One person said this and the other comments rightfully jumped down their throat.
there’s tons of defense of treating trans men like shit
No there was not.
"allies” telling trans people they’re overreacting, all kinds of inexcusable shit.
I’m trans and will say you’re overreacting, a lot.
If this is how lemmy 196 is gonna be I hope this place crashes and burns
K, you can leave anytime you like. That’s always been allowed.
Pick me !!! Pick me!!! Hey I’m one of the good transes pick me!!!
If you didn’t see the shit in that comments you weren’t looking hard enough. Op openly admitting their abusive tendencies and lots of people saying that’s OK, that trying to make a trans partner feel dysphoric is just a"preference ". Fuck off with your internalized transphobia, assuming you even are trans and not just some 14 yo 4chan edgelord who wants to own the transes or whatever
I had the first comment in that post, I saw every comment thereafter. You’re making shit up about what happened in those comments. Or I guess that’s just how your warped view of reality interpreted it. Yikes.
I used to be like you, angry at the world and blaming everyone but myself. I hope you come to terms with your anger and learn to process that instead of lashing out at others like you’re doing. Meditation helped me, best of luck.
And I hope you deal with your internalized transphobia. We need to stick together, not gang up on eachother to look good for The Cis™. Stop defending blatantly transphobic bullshit (or pretending it doesn’t even exist in your case)
Who’s ganging up on you? If anything you’re the one ganging up by trying to flame the person in the screenshot for answering what their sexual preference is when someone asked them.
There was nothing that was “blatantly transphobic” other than the Karen comment that rightfully had several rebuttals shutting it down.
I don’t stick with people just because of characteristics we share. They have to be a good person for me to want to support and be with them. You are not that, so I will not defend you just because we’re both trans. Trans people can suck too, as you’ve shown.