On some level I think you’re both right - this is roughly the problem that happened with email and spam.
At one point it was trivial to run your own Mailserver, this got harder and harder as issues with spam got worse. Places started black holing servers they didn’t know and trust, this drove ever more centralization and a need for server level monitoring/moderation because a few bad actors could get a whole server blocked.
We can know that bad actors will exist, both at the user and at the server level. We can also know that this has a history of driving centralization. All of this should be kept in mind as the community discusses and designs moderation tools.
Ideally, I hope we can settle on systems and norms that allow small leaf nodes to exist and interconnect while also keeping out bad actors.
I liked tildes’ interface a lot but I bounced off the culture hard. It’s so tightly controlled there’s very little diversity and very little actual interest in diversity. It comes through in the “no new ad-hoccommunities” and “all communities must fit in a rigid tree hierarchy”
It’s sad, the sw is very good.