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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • People value different types of relationships in their own unique ways. Some people value friendships over romance and that’s fine. Maybe it’s tiring to see people looking for romance but if that’s what they need to feel fulfilled, so be it. It doesn’t have to matter to you for it to be valid. Same way that someone can see this post and say “so what?”


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    1 year ago

    I know this is overused and cliché but it gets better eventually. I had a very similar family situation and I knew that it wouldn’t get better until I move out so I essentially masked and became what they wanted me to be. I particularly have a narcissistic mom and she often projected onto me so I just had to perform to satisfy her delusions. Being two people at once is exhausting but you eventually compromise with yourself and bear with it until you can get into a situation to stop pretending.

    There will always be a niche online community with your specific interests. The people you will meet online will stay as long as you make an effort to keep in touch. Even the low maintenance relationships are valuable. Maybe shoot a message to one of your old friends and see where that goes. Wouldn’t hurt to say hi every now and then.

    Life is what you make it out to be, given whatever resources you have. Granted it’s not always going to be good and a lot of times it will hurt. Learning to accept that pain and sitting with it for a little helps a whole lot. There’s only so much that you can control. You can try to make your learning joyful again; try to reignite or find the passion in new knowledge. You can try and lessen your impact on the climate by eating less animal products and choosing plant-based options more.

    Antidepressants aren’t meant to be a magic happy pill. Start with the small things. Maybe a good depression room cleaning and rearranging things around. A walk in the park. Less time on the screen. Sitting with your emotions. Venting and crying it out.

    Yesterday, I would’ve agreed with and just wallowed with you but things got better today. You’re not alone. I believe that you can pick yourself up again one step at a time.








  • Thank you for your rambling! I really appreciate it and it’s made me realize that I do love structure but sometimes being too strict makes me hate everything I do and I eventually spiral down back to square one. I need to be more flexible and just learn how to enjoy my day to day life by doing things that I know are good for me and by making those things fun.


  • Sorry for the late reply I’ve been stuck in a reddit binge before Apollo dies. Anyway, every tarot practitioner views it differently. For me, it’s a way to connect with myself and the energies around me. It’s very grounding since it’s just another tool for me to assess my actions and possible outcomes. It’s not something that predicts your future per se. I avoid personal bias by evaluating whether the reading resonates with what I feel and what is objectively happening around me.

    In a nutshell, it’s a bunch of cards (78 cards) with different symbolisms and meanings. Pull as many as you need, interpret it based on the basic symbolisms and key words on your guide. Decide whether it resonates or not. Do it again as you please. It’s hard at first since there are a lot of cards but it just takes some practice to get better as with any other thing. Sometimes it takes me weeks before I grab my cards again, sometimes I need it on the daily.


  • I’ll keep the “easy, comfortable, gradual and sustainable” in mind. This is really helpful especially because I’ve been raised in a very pressuring environment where mistakes were condemned and the shaming penetrated through the bone. It’s been a year since I got out of that environment but I still can’t shake off the unrealistic expectations put on me. I should be in charge of my own parameters of success and happiness.


  • I know it’s been 5 days but I just want to thank you for believing in me, a random person on the internet. I have been stuck in another spiral of wallowing in self-hatred and overall negative things. Typing down this reply is making me anxious already but I know that I have to power through it and just start doing things. I’m preparing for a reset come July 1. Since 3rd party reddit apps will die that day, I can finally get rid of the main stress bringer in my life. I’m also going to set better achievable goals this time around. I will make it work.




  • I was born and raised Roman Catholic and attended Catholic schools up to college. I feel very disconnected from the religion because of how it upholds discriminatory views against gender minorities. There was also a lot of fear instilled in me when I was younger and I just grew out of it eventually. It didn’t make sense that I would do good just because a higher being promised salvation when I die. There well also too many hypocrites around me who would go to church religiously but never practice the teachings from the priest.

    I now try to make sense of life as I see it and I still practice spirituality through Tarot. It’s brought me a lot of peace but I still struggle every now and then