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  • liztliss@lemmy.worldtoAutism@lemmy.worldThis is my life
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    1 year ago

    Because I’ve noticed, between my husband and I who both have shown symptoms of ADHD/autism, that I’m better able to modulate my tone of voice and have better interpersonal interactions at work, and he has had similar issues to another commenter when speaking to people at work- because he’s technically correct, he doesn’t get in trouble, but he still stirs the pot in ways that make people less willing to work with him because of the tone of condescension he takes on, without him seeming to realize it. My theory is that this is a learned/untrained behavior and is something many women are typically forced to learn to adapt and fix early on.

    Edit to add: I just realized you probably didn’t mean my question was a lack of response but rather that no one commented and that was interesting 🤦‍♀️ whoops 😅




  • If they can even get there. At this point there’s so much money poured into vitriol and smear campaigns, divisive propaganda to keep everyone off the same page, hell, even people getting murdered or imprisoned just for trying to do what they can to get their voice out on a public platform and improve their countries… I hope the revolution actually happens, but it seems like it’ll take some grand feat of coordination…


  • It can be so frustrating because it feels like any number of factors can be the culprit, from consuming certain drugs or alcohol which can impact sleep, which can then impact how your body and mind process and break things down, from natural hormone cycles, from unexpected life events that require more in-depth engagement than the usual routine, from what kind of food you’re consuming and the sugar/fat/etc. content, to how often you are getting exercise and moving your body around… It’s impossible to have a perfect and consistent day, week, month, or year, but it’s possible to give yourself patience and kindness and the mindfulness to realize “well, today perhaps I hit my limit early due to factors beyond my control” and that’s totally okay. There are days and even weeks when I feel great throughout and can feel on top of my social and productivity game, and, more often than not, there are days where I just can’t convince myself to get out of bed, can’t convince myself to get off the couch, can’t see any reason to socialize or make healthy food choices or be productive, and sometimes that’s okay, sometimes you just gotta be patient with yourself and do something that makes you feel comfortable and not stress out about what’s “normal” or “right.” We only get the one life, so I believe that instead of worrying if we fit the mold properly it’s better to just do what makes us feel good and doesn’t make the world worse to live in, if we can. I hope you can reach your goal of a week long meter some day!! But don’t beat yourself up if it feels like you aren’t making the progress you want all the time ❤️


  • Emotions take energy, and we all seem to have a limited amount of energy to expend throughout the day, week, or month. But it also seems like it can be practiced and you can build emotional endurance, utilizing different tools that mental health experts have developed, to help extend your limits and prevent you sometimes from feeling completely drained. It does take practice! And some days you’ll be affected by things that are just simply beyond your control, such as unexpected interactions and hormones, etc. I’ve personally found that medication for anxiety helps me to limit the amount of energy I’m expending on emotions because I’m no longer reacting as strongly to everything and being in a constant state of fight or flight, which allowed me the time and space to build my endurance in a healthier way, but it’s going to be different for everyone just due to genetics and environment and lifestyle, etc. What you describe specifically sounds a lot like depression, from my own experiences, but you know yourself best. Have you been able to speak with any mental health professionals about your concerns?


  • liztliss@lemmy.worldtocats@lemmy.worldBest. Cat. Ever.
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    1 year ago

    I know what you mean here, but it’s a bit egotistical of humans to be like “we literally know what this creature who can’t talk” is thinking when they can barely properly guess what their long term partner or friend is always thinking 🤣 cats MIGHT be more simplistic in thought patterns than humans, but to assert what all cats believe based on an incorrect reporting on John Bradshaw’s studies of cats is just plain wrong- please do a quick search! You’ll see there are conflicting reports of what his book seems to claim, but he himself does not assert that that’s what cats literally believe. 😬

    Edit to add: here’s the article where he’s being interviewed about it, and the relevant part!

    https://www.nationalgeographic.com/adventure/article/140127-cats-pets-animals-nation-dogs-people-science

    "I’ve read articles where you’ve said cats think of us as big, stupid cats. Is that accurate?

    No. In the book [I say] that cats behave toward us in a way that’s indistinguishable from [how] they would act toward other cats. They do think we’re clumsy: Not many cats trip over people, but we trip over cats.

    But I don’t think they think of us as being dumb and stupid, since cats don’t rub on another cat that’s inferior to them."