The only success I’ve had to connect to my wayland desktop was with Gnome, (at the time, it only worked if I was already logged in, though there was an extension that let you overcome a locked desktop). Once in, it worked well. Sort of. Had no luck with KDE, though that may have changed. VNC gave me no end of difficulty so I gave up.
All in all, a bit of a fiasco. YMMV - I’m sure my own incompetence was to blame (but should it not be… easier?)
I’m about to try Ubuntu again.
I switched to Fedora for a few months, and really prefer it over Ubuntu . Clean Gnome. dnf is great. Useful COPRs. It just makes sense. But in my Sisyphian attempts to switch to Linux as my platform for music production (with my existing paid vsts and sound libraries), I hit one brick wall too many. Things that worked no longer work. Things that I could never get to work remain unworking.
So, going to try Ubuntu. I dislike snaps. I dislike the twisted Gnome UI. I will say the Ubuntu fonts are nice though (I actually imported them into Fedora…)
The further I stray from a default install, the harder it is to maintain going forward. Fingers crossed for Ubuntu.