You mean I was scolding you because of the use of an angry emoji? Sorry, I meant to be angry at the use of the word not against you personally. And I did add something to the debate, namely the discussion about what words we use and how people may feel about them. Also, see the link in my previous reply.

ETA: I still have the feeling you are overly defensive for being criticized for using a derogatory expression. If you mean to tell me I should have done it in a nicer manner, than this is called tone policing, i.e. criticizing someone for how they express their critique instead of replying to the content if their critique and thus evading discussion of their own behavior.

English isn’t my first language either. Also, I’m autistic, so yes, I object to being told I had a disease. Although I didn’t even feel offended because I commented in good faith just trying to clarify.

Independent of this, if you choose to talk about marginalized groups of people you should at least consider what are slurs or discriminatory/pathologizing phrases and avoid them. This way you seem just too lazy to even try.

I know you are not searching for an alternative to cantata, but I really really like Clementine (and its fork Strawberry) and have been using it for years. Maybe worth a try but you probably already know it, right?

I agree, except for cases where the person saying the word is of the minority group itself. As an autistic individual I do find it funny to sometimes say that something is my autistic side, but I also get the joke and don’t make fun of autistic people.

Contrapoints’ video on dark humor may be relevant here

Autism (spectrum disorder) isn’t a disease 😠

https://www.newscientist.com/letter/mg19826600-500-autism-is-not-a-disease/

Same

Nope :(

I really liked the Some More News episode on this! It explains pretty well how regardless of a rich person’s intelligence they probably get corrupted by mental distortions due to being rich. That is, Elon haa probably been powertripping for too long and lost all basis on how to take good decisions because he lives in his own rich fantasy world thinking he accomplished everything because of his own superior genius…

Why pay for Spotify when you can just use a cracked version via xManager? ;)

Yeah, same :D

Or you use a good adblocker and then get extremely irritated when you once in a while have to listen to an ad ;)

Unfortunately Netflix’ plan to squeeze even more out of people seems to have worked though :/ I was hoping for the same effect there, i.e. that people would instead resort to alternatives like piracy… Maybe these are different audiences though? Or is it maybe more important to people to have entertainment to escape real life (like streaming services) than entertainment with a flavor of empowerment?

Read the privacy statement but couldn’t figure out how to interpet it. I’m not worried about it that much but would like to avoid further feeding into big data. Not sure how, but the books I read could easily tell a lot about me.

Honest question: how does StoryGraph value your privacy? Being based in the US and being for free suggests that user data could be the real product. Otherwise it obviously looks really nice and I would love to use their stats.

Hm yes, I’m probably a bit more extreme in my position and I try to be reflective about what portion of it is a legitimate criticism and what is a trauma response. I get it has to do a lot with growing up perceived as a boy and being repeatedly penalized by society for not fulfilling the role of a boy/man that led me to my misandrist tendencies.

But apart from that, actually most of my friends have the policy to distrust cis men until they prove not to be assholes (with an unfortunately low success rate). I’m very much open to the idea of cis men emancipating themselves from gender roles and patriarchal expectations. But until this happens, it will be necessary for anyone who isn’t a cis men to distrust them and be careful around them.

(Btw, is there an acronym in English for saying “everyone that isn’t a cis men”? In German there is an acronym to say women, lesbians, inter, trans, nonbinary and agender people -> FLINTA*)

Well, my mom is abusive, too. But cis men being abusive is something structural. That is the difference between the two.

And sure, I know that cis men are just people like everybody else and they also suffer from patriarchy. But in the same time they just don’t show any (or not enough) progress in emancipating themselves from their roles as men. I’m not against the humans that are cis men per se, but I would love to see manhood abolished and these same people to be free themselves. But I guess the problem is that most of them have so many privileges and perceive themselves as the default humans that they have a hard time reflecting upon their role and their privileges.

I appreciate your comment :)

And it’s not only that cis men are frequently shitty, it is that they have such a hard time relflecting upon and sharing their privileges with others. I get it’s hard to step away from the perspective that you are the center of the universe when you’ve been told so since early childhood. But that just makes 95% of cis men assholes in my experience. And yes, I actually mean 95%. They treat you like an object or a human of second class*. And I’m sorry if I offend the remaining 4-5% of cis men, but it should be their responsibility to teach the others. All of my straight friends who are women either complain about not finding a suitable partner because the available cis men just don’t fulfill basic requirements, or they settle with the shitty behavior of cis men and then complain to me about it.

[*] Maybe this sounds like I’m surrounding myself with shitty people. But these are mostly progressive and “emancipatory” cis men I’m talking about.

Well, the problem imo are often cis men and it is hard to have a safe space with them. I’ve just experienced too much abusive behavior by them and men usually help each other out and therefore promote abusive behavior.

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I agree with you. It kind of itches me that he was just so ignorant of already established knowledge. But then, this is exactly the point where we fall blind to alternative solutions because we are limited by our prior established rules. So I didn’t want to judge, but yes he seemed to be very ignorant.

I would respect it for some team doing something as risky, that’s what I wanted to express. That he took paying customers was unethical imo.