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  • I was hanging with a group consisting of mostly older millennial gay men who don’t like that trans people are being included alongside them in conversations about human rights, sexuality, and gender. They think it takes away from the fight their community has gone through over the past few generations.

    I chewed them out. Like, a lot. I am usually not at all confrontational but I pretty much stunned them into silence. Now I’m waiting to let them process, expecting a couple to reach out to me to step back from some of the shit they were saying. If that doesn’t happen, I guess I’m not really welcome in that group anymore and I’m ok with that.

    There are no trans people in this group. I’m not a gay man nor am I trans. But when I hear shit like that, I hear echos of gay men activists not being willing to work with lesbian women activists, white feminists not includig black women, male laborers trying to keep women out of labor rights movements. It’s stupid. It’s tribal and hateful. It undercuts the strength the movement could have if we weren’t asshats about it.

    Rights campaigning 101, strength in unity. This is basic ass shit.



  • Anytime we ask questions about poor people doing things to make a buck, you probably won’t find me talking negatively or blaming the people with few to no options.

    I’ve been in a financial situation where selling my blood plasma was an easy, safe, guaranteed amount of money that kept me from getting deeper into the hole. I’m not going to knock anyone who does it, only the shitty social services that fail people to the point they have to sell their plasma to survive.






  • Yeah, I would call that a “killer of the week” format. There is a new crime/murder every week. Sometimes there is a season-long story as well (Natasha Lyonne’s character running away from the Vegas baddies) and sometimes it’s just the killer of the week story. Murder, She Wrote is a good example of the latter; you can watch MSW episodes in pretty much any order, it doesn’t matter because each episode is basically self-contained. Any story external to the killer of the week is just to service actors being replaced or setting Jessica Fletcher in different locations beyond her hometown so she can face a new killer of the week. MSW is a whodunnit and also a killer-of-the-week show.


  • It’s been a while for me and I never did watch all of them, but no, I think Sherlock is a whodunnit, heavy on the drama, plus the twist of some narration from Watson’s blog.

    The first episode opens with several people seemingly taking a pill to commit suicide. But someone is making them do it somehow. We don’t know who, we don’t know why. Who did it? Whodunnit genre.

    Where if it were a Howcatchem genre, the identity of the baddie is revealed up front and the episode is about how the detective figures it out and nails them. How did the detective catch them? Howcatchem.

    Monk, if you ever saw that one, would sometimes do whodunnit episodes and sometimes howcatchem episodes.



  • I’m not entirely sold on the argument I lay out here, but this is where I would start were I to defend using chatGPT in school as they laid out in their experiment.

    It’s a tool. Just like a calculator. If a kid learns and does all their homework with a calculator, then suddenly it’s taken away for a test, of course they will do poorly. Contrary to what we were warned about as kids though, each of us does carry a calculator around in our pocket at nearly all times.

    We’re not far off from having an AI assistant with us 24/7 is feasible. Why not teach kids to use the tools they will have in their pocket for the rest of their lives?






  • I don’t know how to answer “exotic”. “Exotic” can easily slip into xenophobic territory.

    Maybe I answer with a restaurant from a specific culture that I had never been exposed to before? In which case, Himalayan/Tibetan/Nepalese. I could eat momos every day. But I say that about every savory-wrapped-in-dough thing. Dumplings, empanadas, bierocks, meat pies, xian bing, piroshki, is there a culture that doesn’t have some variation of that? And it’s always good. If ever there is need for a flag to represent Humanity, it should be of a savory pie.



  • Do you do breathing stuff?

    Lately I’ve been digging bee breath, or bhramari pranayama. Basically, just hum/buzz on slow exhales. Sometimes other breathing techniques, like box breathing, leave my mind too open to wild thoughts and distractions getting in. Bee breath is just enough extra for me to focus on so I can keep the other thoughts at bay. Playing around with different pitches and buzziness is kinda fun too.


  • Eh, I can think of some context dependencies. I don’t have a blanket expectation for first aid knowledge.

    For example, I like backpacking. I go on several multi-day trips per year. I don’t necessarily need a partner to like backpacking too; I’m fine enjoying my hobby myself or with friends. But if they do like backpacking and haven’t done the work of learning an appropriate level of first aid, I will absolutely judge them negatively. People should not go wandering into the backcountry, away from people and cell service, with absolutely no idea how to take care of themselves.

    Someone who never has a need to get far from medical experts? Much more understandable to me if they don’t prioritize learning first aid.

    Basically, don’t be a reckless dumbass.


  • I would expect a control then, a group that is asked the question without the gendered piece. But that can’t be done here on this Lemmy community now because we’ve already seen the gendered versions of the question.

    Not like Lemmy is the place to do this sort of thing anyway. In addition to very limited population size, expect a higher rate of STEM folks compared to general population, meaning a higher rate of people who have had a 101 class level on statistics or better. Combined with sarcastic internet commenters. It all means unsubtle manipulations like this gendered question are going to fall flat.