But most of the possibilities when you do ask suck
Ex-Redditor. I have big autism, big sad-all-the-time, and weird math energy.
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But most of the possibilities when you do ask suck
Unfortunately, the entire thing is plagued by politicians, so it is falling apart.
Then the structure of your government is trash.
Would you like to provide those receipts?
Me too. Also, AC + fan make constant continuous noise, but they’re basically required for me to even begin to feel comfortable. I’ve mostly gotten used to the noise, but when I’m already overloaded, it’s not a nice thing.
Coke/Cola -> Tea/infusion
Wut
Nah but seriously, they’re not interchangeable. A Coke replacement would be another cola.
It seems there’s a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don’t know how much has changed in this regard.
Nothing has changed, and it never will, as it concerns poor and “therefore” “deserving” people. Americans’ talk is cheap.
The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.
Agreed. So when you go to a restaurant and you have a maximum amount you can spend, divide the amount of money you have by (100% + local sales tax), then divide by (100% + the menu price), and subtract any surcharges added by the restaurant (assume $5.00 if you cannot look it up), often masquerading as a tip. I know it’s a lot of math, but you have a computer in your pocket. You’ll manage.
In my view, the US is a fractal scam. At every level, everything is an attempt to extract money from ill-informed “suckers”, from the running of the government, to the prices of supermarket groceries, to the tipping culture at restaurants, to even finding a place to put your car [1]. Every single thing is someone’s grift. In order to function in America, you need to be willing to be suckered to some extent. There’s no way around it. Unfairness is baked into every transaction, and increasingly more social interactions.
Everything in America is ridiculously unfair. We wear this on our sleeves, and for many Americans this fact defines their personality. Unfortunately, you will have to deal with it in the short term at least.
Now if you would like to be the one to lead the charge against the tipping culture and the foisting of responsibility for servers’ compensation onto the customer, then be my guest. Refuse to tip and make a big scene about it. Make plans for how to take the inertia of your big struggle and turn it into a mass movement. I would thrilled to join you. However, I somehow doubt that you’re ready to go that far; none of the customers who stiffed me ever went on to start anti-tipping movements.
So will AITA if I don’t tip?
Yes. You are expected by all members of the public here to tip. That is our culture, something we’re proud of for some reason, and our expectation. For some servers, tips are the primary source of income at work.
Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?
No, it is the responsibility of the employer. However, when no employer takes their responsibility and you sit yourself down at a restaurant, the logical conclusion is that either you pay that part of the server’s wages, or they get stiffed. You know that this is the conclusion. (Or if not, now you do.)
If you want to participate in our unique restaurant scam, you gotta accept that you’re going to get suckered into paying the server’s wages. Otherwise, don’t go to restaurants. When you go to a restaurant, you waste the employees’ finite time on this planet doing tedious, physically and mentally demanding bullshit that no sane person would choose to engage with, if not faced with the threats of homelessness and starvation. [2] At least make it worth their while.
Sorry if I come off as having a chip on my shoulder, but that’s only because I totally do. So many customers used to concern-troll me as a pizza delivery person and give me shit like “sorry, couldn’t afford to tip, they should really pay you more.” Yeah, they should, but you absolutely could have tipped; all you had to do was order one less topping. I’d love to see some actual solidarity with food service employees, but that would require challenging deep-rooted assumptions about our culture and we’re too shit-for-brains to do that. Americans are so compassionate and empathetic until the moment they actually have to lift a finger.
So when someone brings up “unfairness” or “it’s X’s responsibility to pay the workers” in response to tipping, I just kinda die a little inside from all the times those sentiments have been used against me and my colleagues.
[1] And don’t even get me started on the process of buying a car, or how the public was scammed into accepting a car-centric infrastructure.
[2] This is really a special case of the logic behind the antiwork movement: nobody actually wants to go to work. We only go to work under the threats of starvation and homelessness imposed by capitalism.
I’m more or less a milquetoast anarcho-communist.
I was playing Fallout NV with a shitload of mind-wrecking mods a while back (e.g., all the randomizers, cheat weapons, infinite companions, meme VATS, quest mods, etc). Game was absolutely destroyed, so it was crashing several times a day for about a few weeks. Apparently, my sister was getting spammed with Steam notifications every time I restarted the game. Thanks Steam.
Just because someone is starving doesn’t mean that they’ll eat absolutely anything, nor should they be expected to.
That being said…bread with butter isn’t that nutritious. You might want to start trying new foods to round out your diet. I for one am a lot more likely to like a new food if it isn’t forced upon me, more so if I make it myself.
Reddit’s drawcard was finding THE sub for a topic
IMO Reddit’s drawcard was containing the sub, and therefore the community, for a topic. Reddit is where the discussion was, and for many communities still is. Rather than hosting a dedicated forum, people interested in starting a community can just start it and begin moderating and discussing without setting up a backend; it allows users to get to the “socializing” step of building a community in less steps. Lemmy also does this, albeit with a smaller community likely distributed over several instances and earlier in the system’s lifecycle.
Hopefully, Lemmy will implement a “multi-community” option like the multireddit concept so that users can group multiple related communities into one feed.
That being said, I think that similar communities ought to find each other and work together to best serve the people of their communities. Some communities will benefit from collaborative non-competition (for example, a community for discussion about how to use a specific complex product) while some have no need to be centralized (for example, a community for sharing dank memes). However, even in communities that would benefit from non-competition in good times, users should always be free to form their own communities in case the parent community (or their moderation) becomes too odious to bear. This process was much more difficult on Reddit because sub names had to be unique, so new communities would need to pick a weird name.
If you need to use VS Code, download VS Codium instead. The product offered by Microsoft is licensed under a not-FOSS license, even though the vscode source is FOSS. More importantly, VS Code sends tracking and telemetry data to Microsoft!
Apparently you can make a blank comment with Lemmy. Fat-fingered the send button. Anyways…
That’s one reason why we need not centralize on any one instance, so that the whole set of communities isn’t lost if a big instance goes rogue. However, in the nightmare scenario where an instance goes rogue and it happens to contain huge communities, we can simply [1] pick up house and move somewhere else, specifically to a new instance, your own in the worst case.
It’s not that we’ll never lose communities or that the problem of power-tripping mods is completely solved. [2] It’s that, because the system is distributed and decentralized by design, the whole system won’t die if one big node goes down.
Eventually, all these instances are going to die because all things end. However, the Fediverse should be able to continue as long as users are interested in using the service.
The success of centralization as an organizational principle hinges on the success of its central hub. If that one hub is corrupted (and it will be), the whole system has to deal with the consequences. To recreate this situation on the decentralized system, you need to corrupt a large enough set of the entire network, which is possible but much harder to accomplish.
Additionally, I imagine that the Internet Archive or someone else will start archiving our content, although we shouldn’t rely on that.
[1] The Reddit exodus so far has shown that transplanting an entire community, e.g. a subreddit, is not at all simple. However, it should be easier once people learn how to use a Threadiverse app, because Kbin and Lemmy are quite similar.
[2] The problem of “power-tripping mods” is really a special case of the problem of “power-tripping people” in social organization. In my view, anarchism and similar decentralized social movements have laid a ton of groundwork and theory for robust federated social systems that are not contingent on having perfect actors, although the problem is of course not fully solved.
It’s not in the fediverse
Not good. I can understand individual users or communities not wanting to be a part of the Fediverse or certain parts of it, but federation is a necessary condition for me to adopt a social media platform at this point.
For example, I’ve seen a few users discussing Kbin vs Lemmy. Now I prefer Lemmy, but I also want to see Kbin succeed. Despite that I think Lemmy is technically better, the fact that they use the same protocol means that we can talk to each other. We can agree to disagree in this new system.
We have seen what will happen if we allow social media to be owned by one company. Time and time again, the platform kills itself and those communities fragment. Sure Wikipedia is a company with a great deal of public trust, but so was Reddit. The issue is that the success of the system hinges on the benevolence of a single company or person. This is the main issue with centralized control in any instances: compromising the central controller kills the whole system.
If it gets popular, it’s an indication that users have not learned that lesson, and eventually that platform will too “enshittify” itself into oblivion. Hopefully, they’ll change course and federate.
Winter. I like my spaces very cold.
Well…it is a bit like us-vs-them. I’m all for modifying my behavior to make people comfortable around me, I’m willing to change, but it often feels like (1) nothing is ever enough, and (2) they’re often unwilling to make any similar changes to accommodate us. And I do think that we need to organize based on our shared experience as neurodiverse people to defend ourselves from the weird expectations that NT people often expect from us.
That being said, NT people are not a monolith, and obviously there are lots of cool and reasonable NT people. But there are some things that they just can’t intuitively understand because they’re not in our skins. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with informing them of that, just as there’s nothing wrong with NT people informing us about things we might be unable to intuitively understand.
I most regularly use Python, followed by MATLAB C++. Python has been practically mandatory for writing code for my undergrad research. My classmates usually know “a little” Python, and it’s pretty easy to pick up on the fly. I’m trying to phase out MATLAB for Python seeing as I’ll be graduating soon and my student license will run out. I know about Octave, but work done in Python is probably easier to integrate.
My favorite is C++. It’s the first language I learned and it feels like home. It gives me enough abstractions to get actual work done, but it also has the low-level tools I need to shoot myself in the foot for working with Arduino or other microcontrollers.
I’m looking into Rust for audio programming. Although audio programming is done almost exclusively in C++ these days, Rust’s safety features without performance penalties look like a promising language to write fast and reliable code suitable for real-time operation. Joining Lemmy and seeing how it compared to Kbin has cemented my interest in the language because so far, despite the bugs I’ve run into, Lemmy and Jerboa has been fast above all.
Yeah that stuff is a bit obnoxious, but once you get browsing it doesn’t come up, at least for me. Well worth it for no YouTube ads and making tracking more difficult.
These two are now the first apps I install on any new device:
Basically, my approach is to (mostly) prioritize text over icons, and reduce the colors I need to process.
Other apps:
Me but with sleep 😬