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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • I’ve never seen it either. I’ve heard of it though, but only in wealthier areas. Working class people don’t have the luxury of deciding to pay extra to alleviate human suffering - it’s the same reason walmart consumes all other choices; the average person chooses the cheapest option because they’re already scraping by. A more relatable take would be to just opt out of eating at places that demand tips – I already do that, but only because I can’t afford to eat out anyway :)


  • Did you read their comment beyond the first two words?

    They explicitly said to stop tipping by deciding to instead go to places that ban tipping, price goods higher, and pay their employees fairly. None of your argument about “you need to tip people who rely on tips” applies to what they said. You jumped to your “haha gotcha” moment a bit prematurely.


  • It’s times like these that I’m glad I am autistic. You neurotypicals really over-complicate things and make life difficult for yourselves.

    How to flirt as an autistic person: make a friend over shared interests, spend time together sharing that interest, realize they’re enjoyable to be around, communicate clearly “I enjoy spending time with you, let’s do it more often”, slowly morph into a relationship out of convenience. Done.

    I cannot understand NT mind-games and obsessive preening. Don’t you get frustrated with it? And to think - someone who puts that much effort into judging you upfront is likely to keep judging things about you all your life, with no end to playing games… Stressful, no thank you.



  • I hope you some day learn that everything in life is made up of many, smaller, things. And I hope that gaining that knowledge empowers you to feel like you have control over at least some of the stresses in your life. And I hope that leads you to a place where you’re not angry and lashing out at the very people you seek validation from. And I hope that when you stop pushing people away, you will receive the validation you need - that we all need, as human beings - and you can feel the relief you’re currently searching for. And that some day, the comments in this thread will seem like a silly thing to have been upset about.

    I hope you find the peace you need. Have a good day.


  • i still really don’t give a shit

    Ok, don’t respond.

    i’m not going to engage just because you tell me too

    Ok, don’t respond.

    repeatedly telling me i should engage on “burning books is bad” is the transphobic part.

    Topics in life are nuanced and intersect. Burning one book with the reasoning that it’s fighting transphobia does not nullify the other things that book burning represents. If book burning being bad is transphobic, then fascists are trans-positive. Clearly, that’s not how the world works. An action is not defined solely by intent, but also by how it is received by others. You do not get to define how your messages are received, and part of human socialization is navigating how others feel about what you do. Communication is a two-way street, but you’re demanding that only your way matters.

    i don’t need to explain myself or my actions.

    Ok, don’t respond.

    i don’t need to justify them to you or anyone else.

    Ok, don’t respond.

    now please, could you leave me the fuck alone?

    You could have exited the conversation by not responding.




  • How is that different than now?
    We claim we won’t force you into the military, but if there’s not enough people who want to go to war, we’ll draft you.
    If you’re a woman or minority, we won’t kill you outright, but you’ll have reduced quality of life without a conformative man to vouch for you. Bad job selection, lowered wages, political/legal/policing discrimination, doctors assuming malingering and not giving healthcare, etc.
    People are still slapped with mental illness diagnoses and denied personal agency too. We shut down asylums, but we created mass homelessness. If you’re a social rebel or outcast, you get a mental illness label that stops you from gainful employment, allows all authority figures to disregard you entirely, and if you make too much noise we’ll send you to a psychiatric ward, give you court-mandated anti-psychotic injections under threat of jail, and even remove your power of attorney or make you a ward of the state.
    Oh, and involuntary shock therapy still exists, by the way.


  • Nah. I played before DPS/speed-clear meta and all the powercreep. When you actually fought the enemies, took damage, and didn’t die to one-shots. I enjoyed that, and the game has always been downhill. After 1,400 hours of playtime, I realized I was only playing hoping for it to feel like it used to, but it never came.



  • Do you think a “soulslike” is defined by being dark and gritty? I find it odd that you think the inclusion of anything cute or hopeful/friendly would be only a negative. Maybe your preferences are for dark and gritty only, but I assure you that many people enjoy other styles. There’s a charm to there being hope in a dying world, isn’t there?

    Besides, I’d say most people define “soulslike” by their gameplay, not aesthetics. Maybe the “git gud” fragile-masculinity crowd needs their unforgiving combat system paired with a dark, ‘masculine’ atmosphere to fulfill their power fantasy, but again, I assure you that many other types of people enjoy those games - especially Elden Ring, which has much broader appeal than the previous souls games.

    I’ll wager you’re a toxic “git gud” type that hinges their identity on these types of games, and that’s why the idea of your sacred icon being blemished by comparison to Soulframe upsets you so much. I really can’t see why else anyone would be this angry over a game not being to their preferences. If people enjoy something different than you, let them. :)


  • Nuance is needed here… The terms high- and low-functioning are definitely problematic, because they’re too reductionist, and lead people to assume things. But I wouldn’t go so far as to say that autism having “levels” is bad - the DSM-5 (as horribly flawed as it is) contains two sets of three levels each for determining level of support needed by an autistic person, with the two sets being related to socialization and life-skill functioning. Given that autism is a spectrum, and some autistic people aren’t disabled by it at all, being able to categorize people by their needs is useful - we just have to make sure that it’s qualitative, rather than arbitrary labels being picked by how the doctor is feeling that day. And it’s something to be kept in medical records, not used for self-identification.