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Cake day: September 24th, 2023

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  • Yes, but you can give grace to a 12 year old child who speaks Russian with an American accent minding his own business buying an inch cream cone. Prejudices exist, but so does a brain cell. Still, I have to give grace, this was ~2009

    It’s been rough for both due to the tensions. I was supposed to be Lithuanian but ended up born in Russia. My brother is Lithuanian. He would fail classes just because he was Lithuanian in a Russian school (90s). My mom had to pretend to be best friends with the teacher so he could pass. He used to also get into a lot of fights to and from school.

    We immigrated to the United States when I was 5, so luckily I didn’t get that treatment in Lithuania. Fortunately, I have good memories from my Lithuanian pre-school


  • Outside of the obvious war, Kaliningrad in certain conditions. If you have local friends there you trust, or you are fluent in Russian, you’ll have a great time. Its got a lot of nice history, some nice views, and its cheap. But if you’re an obvious tourist, they do not treat you kindly. I wore a tank top and shorts in the city on my way from Svetlagorst beach and got side eyes for my tattoos and attire. If you’re used to stereotypically polite service, it’s not as prevalent there in Russia. And if you try to be nice, you’re seen as a weirdo.

    Lithuania is also hit or miss. Vilnius and Klaipeda are nice, but are NOT tourist friendly. I used to live there, but when I went back as a kid, my mom and I spoke English and Russian. They tried to overcharge our meal significantly but my mom knowing Lithuanian caught it. The people at the corner store also questioned why I only speak Russian, and hesitantly spoke with me. Plus people on the street would call out appearances if you look different. Really good fuckin pizza though







  • It’s hard to answer your question without proper context.

    I live functionally with a partner from the outside looking in. I have a job and I pay my bills mostly on time. I have a lot of debt just like the average American, and I’m one or two bad days away from losing my sanity/livelihood. I go to work every day to a job that I don’t enjoy to barely scrape by my bills. So in that case, no different from a neurotypical.

    I do have sensory issues, a history of trauma from being undiagnosed and a lack of support, and I have days where I’d rather not be alive. Some days I have to go full throttle on a quarter-tank of gas. Some days I’m in stop-and-go traffic with a sports car. My house is cluttered, my laundry hamper is full, and I’ve had dishes in the sink for days. My animals eat better than I do, and I am in no way shape, or form ready to have a child.

    I’m obsessed with things to a fault and will dive deeply to 100% understand and master the things I am interested in. This will come at the expense of executive functioning. I am not interested in what is in mainstream media or news, and can barely hold a conversation in my office past the 2-minute mark.

    I was good in school, and somehow decent at a sport (until I couldn’t deal with it anymore and had a breakdown). I loved undergrad and thrived in structure and freedom from an unsupportive family. I did great until I lost interest and hope and had a breakdown, never finishing grad school.

    I’ve hopped from job to job as I couldn’t keep one steady that I liked. I was either mistreated, overworked, or severely underpaid, all while being socially “different” from people. Trust me, I can mask up a storm, but that doesn’t mean my responses are always “socially appropriate.” Years of cynicism brought that about.

    Then I read more, studied more, have an ND partner who didn’t tell me she “knew” I was autistic, but treated me in a way that fit my puzzle pieces. Some therapy, advocating for myself with my PCP for some referrals, medical debt, and 27 years of trauma later? I’m diagnosed as an adult with Autism and ADHD, and the only support I have is other autistic people on Lemmy, Facebook, and local people I can pinpoint have it. That and some different medicines I’ll probably be on for life with an increasing tolerance as I get older and adapt.

    All in all, I’m fine


  • If you have any active auto insurance policy, they will request proof of it at the counter. Some areas are more strict than others depending on risk. Airports are less likely to ask for insurance info. However, you do not NEED auto insurance to rent a car because the company carries minimum financial responsibility for each car. If you do not take the coverage that they offer, and you do not have an active auto insurance policy, then you will be fully liable for all damages to the rental car. Generally, if you’re domestic flying, they will send a legal team after you. If you are international, most rental car companies have Euro and Canadian branches to pursue damages.

    Certain states are “no-fault” states. It doesn’t matter whose fault the accident was, the renter is responsible for damages to the car if the additional coverage is not purchased. Some companies or local areas may allow you to pursue the at-fault person, but only with a police report and insurance/contact information of the at-fault person. If at-fault party and cannot pay, you are still responsible.

    They also can send people to collections

    If the car company you’re renting from has out-of-state tags on their cars, they’re probably self-insured.

    Most rental car companies in airports deny debit cards, you need a credit card to rent. Some get away with a debit card if they have a return flight out of the same airport, but local policies may vary.

    I will forever and always take the coverage for a rental car, and factor in a $ 25-a-day charge for it. I’ve seen too many headaches and hearts broken to not pay the extra. The last thing you want when you’re traveling cross country with family is to deal with damages that were not caused by you to ruin your insurance/finances.