Ah, I see. Yeah, I thought I was misreading it, thanks for the clarification.

I have felt a similar thing with friends drifting apart, although in my case I think it has more to do with age and being busy than corona.

> but I often wish for more connection with other people

The fact that that’s not ok in your relationship sounds pretty bizarre to me. I am in a monogamous relationship, and I have both male and female friends. My gf also has both male and female friends. When she wants to go have some personal time with her friends, I’m supportive of that.

I’m likely reading too much into this, so I’ll apologize in advance, but not being ok with your significant other spending quality time with people they care about seems jealous and insecure to me.

EDIT: My reading comprehension is apparently trash tier.

1 guy made a community. He put some shitty posts there that were massively downvoted. He was banned and his community deleted. It’s hardly “The_Donald” joining.

That’s actually not how it works. Images are hosted by the instance the community is on. Other instances embed those images as links in the page. The image is downloaded from the original instance by the browser.

Yes, it’s a known issue. The devs are absolutely slammed with optimization issues, and this will probably get addressed at some point.

Yup, but this is early days yet. As issues get filed on the github and more contributors step in to accomplish stuff, things will improve.

Go to Communities at the top, change the filter from “Local” to “All” and search for “Gaming”.

If you’re the first one who wants to register to a community from this server (not the case here) it’s slightly more complex.

All the UI is doing is automatically making it a markdown link. You can do it yourself just by doing [!test_community@sopuli.xyz](https://sopuli.xyz/c/test_community)

Completely agree. I’ll be ecstatic if Lemmy hits the point where it’s self-sustaining. It doesn’t need to attract millions, but it needs enough active engaged users to post and comment so that there’s enough interesting shit here

They are credited with taking down wolfballs

I found it in your link, thanks. Jesus. I think lemmygrad deserves a medal for that if this post is representative of that community.

Lemme give you 2 scenarios to explain why defederation is an important option:

1. An instance with views and forms of diacourse wholly incompatible with yours. As a hyperbolic silly example to illustrate, let’s say there’s a community of cultists who believe in Cthulhu. They encourage a steady diet of kidnapped babies, and ritual drownings. They brigade like crazy, and their moderators encourage them to do this. Anybody who doesn’t follow the great old one is an idiot, an asshole, and they express this in extremely vulgar terms. If they were a reddit community, they’d get banned. Here, they get isolated to their own little corner where they can’t scream obscenities at people.

2. An instance with thousands of bots spamming out innocuous looking links that lead to malware. Again, if they were a reddit bot farm, (hopefully) they’d be banned. Here, as it’s an open source project and you can’t restrict who uses it and for what, defederation is the best you can do.

Lemmygrad seems to be a bit of a target of defederation by many instances, and there’s probably some history there that I’m not aware of as I’m also new to Lemmy. Even though I may not agree with some of their hardline views, the users seem to be respectful when commenting over here on lemmy.ml, and the very few times I’ve commented over there, they’ve been cool. Consequently, I’m glad lemmy.ml federates with them.

EDIT: I should probably state that even though I’m cool talking with the respectful users, had to block a few communities there. I don’t want to see the Death to NATO community cheerleading the Russian invasion, for example.

Having understood the fediverse on a theoretical level but not ever actually stepping into it, it’s really amazing to see the interconnectedness of it in real time :)