Honesty, I think it would be fairly easy to figure out.
If it is derogatory - homophobe.
If it points out an idiosyncracy, and makes fun of it - queer, or at least not homophobe.
In my experience, bgoted people make jokes that insult and/or demean those people they hate. It is not done primarily to be funny, but to hurt and demean. Making it funny just helps spread it around.
Are we not doing “phrasing” anymore?
My favorite to hold you over until you find it.
I learned my lesson about ‘lifetime’ updates with a Tom Tom GPS unit, from the late '90s, maybe early 2000s. After about 4 or 5 years I couldn’t install the latest map updates, so I contacted CS. They said, “Oh yeah, lifetime means the time of the expected life of the unit, which is 4.5 years. We don’t support that model anymore. Any other questions?”
Huh, you know maybe knowing the origin of the joke affects how I determine whether it’s derogatory or not?
I did not think about that, but looking back, seems like an easy pitfall.
Good point.