I got a friend there, and we seem to not be federated with them.
I have no idea if it worked or if I broke something, but I added aethy to the federation “allow list”, which is the only way I can think of to explicitly federate with something. they now show up in https://burggit.moe/instances so we should hopefully be federating with them now.
I guess that works, but don’t leave it like that. It automatically puts us into “whitelist” mode. Which automatically blocks federation with other instances.
good to know, sorry about that.
It’s good to know that it makes us automatically become aware of the instance and try to federate posts with it. So I’m glad you tried that. I did not know that.
I’m not sure, but I think @Disabled@burggit.moe was able to manage to get federation working with non Lemmy instances. I don’t know how to do it, personally.