• Azamandriel@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11·
    1 year ago

    I worked for years in a nursing home and I can tell you that it is total bullshit. Everything is the lowest quality at the highest markup. Let me assure you that the staffing at 99% of these places is so low that the residents are waiting 20-30 min to use the restroom and basically live trapped in a bed with little to no assistance.

    • berkeleyblue@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      1 year ago

      I just talked with a coworker about this today. Her dad lost his leg because they failed to respond to a foot infection and they then also blamed him for not telling them soon enough… It’s disgusting how we treat the elderly in those facilities (and here we pay double those 3k btw…) I was forced to work in a nursing home for 2 months as part of my civil duty (military service substitution). I couldn’t do it anymore, it just kills you how they treat some people. Those are grown adults and I was told they can’t have a small knife to cut vegetables, not because they were unsafe with them but just as a matter of policy. Others where given clothes to fold that afterwards where thrown back into the same bucket that they came from to be folded again tomorrow. They were lied to and treated with less respect than little kids… And then the whole COVID thing in addition to that where they couldn’t see anyone and had to endure this idiocy basically 24/7.

      I really never thought about suicide but if I end up in such a facility when I’m old, I might have to reevaluate my stance on that… that’s not living, that’s dying in installments while being drained of your money….

      • jiml78@kbin.social
        1·
        1 year ago

        My mom recently had a stroke. She said the same thing about never wanting to be in a nursing home.

        She will never have independence again. She has no money or retirement. That means she gets placed in a home that accepts Medicaid here in the US. These are the worst of the worst. If they gave my mom a button to push that would end her life, I am certain she would push it rather than go where she is going.

        But she physically can’t do anything so her taking her own life isn’t possible now

    • endlessloop@kbin.social
      1·
      1 year ago

      When my grandmother was unable to live on her own we moved her up to where we live. She had a good amount of money stashed away, so shopped every nice facility in town, and picked what seemed like the nicest one. While I would say the food didn’t look as terrible as the picture in the OP, it wasn’t much better. Multiple other issues at these places though, staff not helping, not giving meds on time, falling and not getting assistance for hours. One of the worst was falling, having to go to the hospital, and never letting emergency contacts know. We found out when the hospital called, because her charts didn’t seem to match up. Turns out they sent the wrong charts to the hospital. Thank god she didn’t have any allergies. We ended up moving her to another facility that was even more expensive, and promised none of these things would happen there. Turns out that wasn’t true, so my parents finally ended up moving to a new home where they could finish the basement and build an apartment for her with full time care hired to come by.

      I used to always think if you had the financial part of old age figured out you’d be okay, boy was I wrong.

  • jerry@lemmy.worldEnglish
    9·
    1 year ago

    I worked at a nursing home as a cook, I guess it was a nice one? We had a nutritionist and made like cafeteria food, then chopped half of it up for the people who had problems, then puréed it for the ones who couldn’t feed themselves.

    Profit has become a tyrant. We used to make people happy in its name, now we shape everything in its service.

    • Tigbitties@kbin.social
      05·
      1 year ago

      Profit has become a tyrant

      Unfortunately, I disagree. I think it’s become hero. It shouldn’t but it is.

  • Creecher10@lemmy.worldEnglish
    4·
    1 year ago

    Looks about right. I worked in a retirement home for 4 years. 2 in the kitchen and 2 doing maintenance. These residents were paying upwards of $10k a month and the food was fucking awful 90% of the time. Not only is the food super shitty but they dont even get all their meals included in their monthly rent so if they wanted 3 meals a day (Breakfast, lunch, dinner) then you had to choose which meal you wanted to pay for out of pocket. These retirement/nursing homes are predatory as hell. I know its not possible for everyone but if you love your parents, do them a favor and keep them out of these homes.

  • morain@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    1 year ago

    We kept our mom out of a nursing home specifically for the food and staffing and overpriced everything reasons. When we looked them all over, even the $5000 a month place had residents calling out for help endlessly, with just two nurses aides working over 100 residents. So sad. Profit over care, from insurance to nursing home.

  • Clbull@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    1 year ago

    My ex (we broke up a year ago and don’t talk) worked as a nurse in an expensive nursing home. Some of the stories she’s told me about how they treat staff and even patients are shocking.

  • MolvanianDentist@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    1 year ago

    Appalled that the nursing home experience being poor is so widespread. Where I live, nursing homes are largely private enterprises receiving government funds and are poorly regulated. Residents often have to take out reverse mortgages if they own their homes to fund their nursing home residencies. And yes, the food is still often that bad.

    • DadHands@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      1 year ago

      Where I’m at, the nursing homes change ownership every few years to avoid responsibility for their negligence

  • Champange Equinox@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    1 year ago

    My dad is in an assisted living facility and this is unfortunately the type of food he gets. I have to send him groceries every week just so I can be sure he’s getting enough to eat.