• Jo Miran@lemmy.ml
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    I spend a lot of time in the Kissimmee/Orlando area. Spend enough time there and the cringe reflex is burnt right out of you. So many people embrace cringe so hard that it ends up becoming almost wholesome. It is infectious too. At this point, when I see a Dodge Challenger fully wrapped in Naruto and matching colored wheels, I focus on the craftmanship and catch myself imagining my car in a full Dexter’s Laboratory wrap. I’m 51.

    Just make you happy. Happy is contagious.

    • 𝕾𝖕𝖎𝖈𝖞 𝕿𝖚𝖓𝖆@lemmy.world
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      I used to cringe every time I saw an itasha car. But hey, not my car. If it makes them happy and it’s not disproportionately negatively affecting others’ safety, then it’s actually kinda sick.

      I couldn’t do it myself. I also haven’t been into anime for several years, but I do love me a JDM neoclassic.

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      I miss my home town so badly right now. Fuck Ron DeSantis. Fuck the Republicans. Fuck all those ghouls in Tallahassee.

      Edit: go grab some Tako Cheena next time you’re in Orlando. Thank me later.

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    This is how I respond when people call me cringe for complimenting my team-mates in games. Even when we lose.

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        I know, right? I was so happy to find there are a bunch of positive voiced pings you can bind in Deadlock. I can now have my character go “good job” when the team does something well together, or “thanks” when a team-mate intentionally or just coincidentally save my skin, and make sure the other players get to feel appreciated.

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    Being mean is willfully making people around you feel worse. Being cringe is negligently making people around you feel worse. Once you’re aware you’re cringe, if you do nothing to mitigate it, you’re being willfully negligent, which is just as bad as doing something intentionally.

    Edit: I’ve posted the same joke as a response each time I’ve seen this meme, and this is the first time it hasn’t been well-received. Just in case that’s down to people thinking I’m being mean instead of making a joke, I’ll clarify that I am in favour of letting people enjoy things.

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      Doing something that brings me joy but makes you cringe sounds like a “you” problem.

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      Being cringe is enjoying things that people think is embarrassing or lame. If someone likes Sonic the Hedgehog enough to wear sonic shirts every day, should they stop wearing them because it’s “cringe”?

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      More than that, how they choose to feel about what *I* do is kinda entirely on them?

      If I wear socks with sandals… okay so maybe I do deserve to be murdered in cold blood, but so what - that’s on me, not the viewers!

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      Being mean is willfully making people around you feel worse. Being cringe is negligently making people around you feel worse. Once you’re aware you’re cringe, if you do nothing to mitigate it, you’re being willfully negligent, which is just as bad as doing something intentionally.

      Cringe is just vicarious embarrassment. You are feeling embarrassed on behalf of someone else. Unlike empathy, where you share the emotion someone else is experiencing, cringe is generally embarrassment for the actions of someone else who is not embarrassed.

      I suspect this is an instinct that helps us create social norms. We are embarrassed that someone else is acting in a way that would embarrass us, so we are encouraged to let them know that what they’re doing isn’t right. This is helpful if someone has toilet paper stuck to their shoe, or their fly is down, or they have some food stuck in their teeth.

      But it isn’t helpful if the thing they’re doing is intentional, harmless, and they’re owning it. Let people live their lives, and work on your response to their behavior or appearance rather than policing them to make yourself feel better.

      NB: I am not a psychologist.